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The Sunday Signal - 26 Apr 2026
At the Inner Frontier, we walk the path of ‘Growing Up’. In the language of my work, we notice our Narrator, update our Map, recognise the prison of Autoplay, befriend Cerberus and welcome home our Outcasts. This work is vital - it makes the person more integrated, more resilient, and more compassionate. It leads to greater relative freedom.
Eventually, every diligent traveler reaches a signpost at the edge of the known world. It could be at the end of the Growing Up trail, but it may also lie anywhere along it, pointing left or right onto a perpendicular path - into mist and toward Waking Up. This path doesn’t further improve the traveler but rather helps her realise the absolute freedom that she is.
In truth, we come to such junctions more than once. Some of us turn early, hoping for a ‘spiritual bypass’ that will shortcut the Growing Up trail. They often find that the powerful, untamed characters from the Growing Up path wreak defensive havoc on this new dimension because it threatens to dissolve them into thinner and thinner vapours.
Most don’t ever turn at these crossroads. They live their lives as a character in Life’s play without probing the ‘fourth wall’. Those of us who turn, having unburdened our psyche’s family sufficiently (which needn’t be completely), take on a new character.
Today, we look at a crafty and subtle character in the human psyche: The Seeker.
The Seeking Loop
Seeking seems to become more virtuous as its goals grow more lofty. We seek material security, then a tribe, then knowledge, then achievement… Those who turn onto the Waking Up path are still seeking: spiritual enlightenment. The author of the Old Testament’s Book of Ecclesiastes made just such a journey and shared it with us.
From our progress on the Growing Up path, we import the belief that if we change the right lever - knowledge, concentration, good acts, etc - we will finally bridge the gap between our current, fragmented selves and a state of wholeness or union with God.
But here is the irony: The feeling that you must become whole or reach a destination is the very signature of ‘unawakeness’, of ignorance. It is the spiritual equivalent of a person wearing glasses and scouring the house to find those very same spectacles.
The Sense of Separate Self (SSS) and the act of seeking are the same movement. To seek is to declare, ‘I am here, and what I need is over there.’ This declaration creates a boundary. It carves an independent ‘me’ out of reality’s One Flow and places it in a state of lack. The SSS is the Seeker.
Conceptual Carving
The mind is incredibly proficient at ‘carving out’ pieces of reality. We designate a collection of cells and stories as a ‘self’, just as we designate a collection of wood and metal as a ‘chair’.
These concepts are practical. Reality has no problem with names and categories; they are the shorthand of manifestation. However, our ability to designate a distinct concept does not grant it durability, ‘selfness’ or independence.
A wave is a useful concept for a surfer, but the wave has no existence independent of the ocean. It is not a ‘piece’ of the ocean that can be separated and kept in a jar. It is a form in and of water. It comes, and it goes. Another will too. The water is always there - before, during and after any wave.
The SSS is simply a special case of this conceptual carving. It is a mental process that has mistaken its own designation for a durable, independent entity. It is a ‘piece’ that feels the burden of navigation, independent of the Whole. Imagine a wave worried with how to move across the ocean, proud when it ‘does well’ and self-critical when it ‘fails’.
The Practical Mirage
Mistaking the concept for reality is the source of our deepest suffering.
The SSS, the sense (package of deep-seated belief and feeling) of being a durable, separate entity ‘crops up’ frequently in the flow of human experience. Different instances of this sense rise and fall countless times each day. Each includes memories of previous instances, memories that resemble the present instance sufficiently to pass (to the unobservant) as identical. This seems to confirm the SSS’s own thesis that it is a durable entity.
The SSS includes being obsessed with its own maintenance and protection. It includes worry about its legacy, its safety, and its ‘enlightenment’.
Crucially, the SSS includes appropriating the concept of I. This ‘hijacking’ constitutes the Seeker taking herself (the expression and experience of what she is) to be a person, a body+mind mechanism. This is the mirage of ‘selfness’.
The separate personal self is a fundamentally unreal piece of Reality’s unbroken expression and experience. Equally real as a line of latitude or a degree celsius. A designation within a single radiant whole. It is a practical mirage.
When we look at it carefully, we see that there is no independent ‘driver’ inside the body+mind machine - only a flow of mental processes, physical sensations, and environmental interactions that have their roots in previous times and remote influences.
Withdrawing the ‘I’
Seeking is the SSS trying to solve the problem of its own isolation. But the SSS is the apparent but unreal isolation. It cannot find wholeness because its seeming existence depends on the belief in fragmentation. It cannot find wholeness because, in truth, it - like all else - is wholeness.
The end of the Waking Up path is the realisation that no amount of Growing Up will ever lead to Waking Up. You cannot polish a mirage until it becomes real. The mirage is perfect as it is, as a mirage.
Remember, Reality has no problem with the SSS. If it did, the SSS wouldn’t appear. Awakening doesn’t destroy the SSS, it just withdraws identity - the misappropriated ‘I’ - from it.
‘When will I wake up?’
The character doesn’t get to dictate the shape or the end point of the Waking Up path. The character simply recognises, whenever it can, what it is not. When the time is right, the separate self is revealed for what it is: a useful, quirky, but ultimately insubstantial character, already at home in the Sacred Dream.
The Dreaming that You are.
See you at the frontier,
p.s. If these signals resonate, here are three ways to move deeper into the work:
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